I also share every effective social technique I’ve ever learned – so, things like approaching a woman, flirting, connecting, getting the phone number etc.
By studying the habits of our most closely related neighbors in the genetic spectrum, we are taken on a road trip of sexual understanding unlike any book before it.
From the book jacket: The chapters are short and sweet, and the language is direct, challenging and immensely hopeful.
I started reading dating and relationship advice books from the age of 11, which I’m sure sounds extremely young, but that’s when I started liking boys. I have it on my bookshelf, covered in clear contact, and will never part with it. It’s basically about cutting the BS, the games and the pretense, and getting yourself into a real, loving relationship.
I was terribly curious, and reading about boys was far preferable to experimenting with them, where I could learn from a safe distance in the comfort of my Laura Ashley-decorated bedroom. ) It wasn’t long before the teddy bears, board games and My Little Ponies were replaced by Girlfriend, Dolly, Cosmo, CLEO, the entire Sweet Valley Twins series (which I still have in mint condition – surely they’re worth something by now) and a collection of self-help books that indulged my boy-mad brain. You can still purchase one called Girltalk but, sadly, I think , by Barbara De Angelis. That’s not to say there was absolutely NOTHING to take away from The Rules but, on the whole, it preached a fairly disastrous approach to dating. My adoration for Barbara De Angelis continued into another one of her books, This is a great book for when you’re finally IN a relationship and want some guidance as to whether or not it’s likely to last.
Thus began a love affair with love affairs – and I wanted to be armed and dangerous for when I finally stopped reading about it and started living it (which, much to my frustration, didn’t really happen until I was 15/16 – damn private girls’ school education). It was a counterattack on The Rules, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, which was the 50 Shades of Grey of 1995 – an unexpected and controversial phenomenon, minus the sex – and encouraged women to go back to 1950s-style dating in order to land a husband. She explains why love, although an essential ingredient, is not enough to sustain a relationship long-term.
She takes you through the 10 relationships that won’t work, fatal flaws and compatibility time bombs – and outlines your options. She also takes you through what qualities to look for in a partner, and how to know when it’s “right”.
It also prompts her to try to MAKE him want her when he's acting like he doesn't.
This is why this tactic will end up getting the girl to sleep with the guy -- or so the theory goes. And that is why this tactic can work: At first, my initial reaction was to try to get his approval, to come on to him and make him want me, to prove to him that I was sexy even though he didn't seem to think I was.
This book is terrible if you’re looking for ACTION items, but it is a wonderful non-fiction read and can greatly assist you in seeing what is possible.