And it’s harder when you’re constantly interacting with them and getting attracted at the same time! Of course, you get to spend all day working in the same office. And sometimes, you may find yourself falling for your boss or dating them even before you realize it.
If your decision is to go for it, then I’ll show you how to maximize your chances of success. Answer these three questions: How much do you care about this job?
Understand that if something goes wrong it can make things awkward at work.
If nobody seems to notice, there's no reason to share. You and your new partner need to agree on some ground rules and come up with a plan for how you will keep it professional and stay within written or unwritten rules. "You may have the burden of overcompensating with professionalism and keeping an artificial distance, which can be an awkward strain," says Taylor.
"What will be your plan 'B' if the heat is on from a supervisor, from gossip, or if things go awry? "Better to overcompensate than to constantly test the limits of workplace etiquette while hoping for the best." Be sensitive and respectful to others.
Some companies frown on the practice, while others do not discourage office dating. Nina Cole, chair of Human Resources Management at Toronto’s Ted Rogers School of Management at Ryerson University says attitudes have radically changed in the workplace since she started 30 years ago.“You had to keep things very hush-hush,” says Cole.
“This was something that really wasn’t accepted.”Cole says that, in the consulting firm where she worked when she was first starting her career, it was discovered that one employee was dating a manager.
” Everyone will tell you to “never fish off the company pier”. Dating a co-worker is a touchy and a potentially dangerous route.
But this is the real world where our feelings aren’t black and white.
Quick backstory: We didn't meet on the job — we were dating for almost four years before we started working together (which, by the way, wasn't planned … But for about 11 months, we sat three cubes apart from one another and kept our relationship under wraps. People sometimes act differently at work than they do in their personal life. No need to send a blast email with "the news" of you and your cube-mate's new relationship.